![]() He was awake but could not move and could not look me in the eyes. My Husband had a stroke on June 19th, 2017. So while he will start over and go on, I am going to hide in a hole and just pray to die, sooner rather than later. I will spend the rest of my life alone because I have loved him so totally that I will not be able to give another that level of love and its not fair to knowingly give someone second best with the knowledge that you will never be able to give them the best. As for me, I still have the feelings, I still have the memories and I made vows. I hope he finds the one is he is looking for someday. Neither one of us have done anything wrong but the stroke destroyed our marriage. You see he no longer has those ties to me and he will go looking for the one he wants in his life and I am not it. I will take care of him and will get him as far as I can and hopefully on his own. I will not hold him to the vows that he does not remember and I will not force him to stay with a woman he is not even attracted to. So I made a decision last night and discussed it with him today. He used to make videos for me, so we watched one The man in the video was passionate about me, the one sitting next to me did not know what was so special about me. But he has not memory nor husbandly feelings for me. Fast forward seven weeks and we are home. I finally asked him point blank, do you remember me, do you know who I am? His answer? No. The way I figured it out? It was in the way he was behaving. I had been his wife for fourteen years and it was all gone. While he knew my voice, it was familiar and to him signaled that all would be well and he was safe, he had no idea of who I was, had no memory of me, of us, of our life. Later on he still would respond to me before anyone. I could always get him to respond, or calm down or get his attention and stop the combativeness that was a result of that stroke. He had become non verbal and had significant swelling of the brain which was relieved by removing the cap and keeping it alive by placing it in his tummy. ![]() He knows my voice, just not where from.Īfter my husbands stroke, he knew my voice and would respond accordingly. The only way to know if visual cues will work is to try it. If your father has a speech problem after having his stroke, then reminders may still not solve the problem as he may have trouble saying or coming up with the right word even with a reminder. The more visual reminders you have, the better it should be, but if your father's short term memory is impaired he may still forget if he's not looking at the visual reminders. If your father can still read after having his stroke, and his issue is not speech but rather memory, then you could put a sign up that says "the dog's name is Roxi", get a collar with the puppy's name in easy to read letters, and even put the name on the puppy's water and food bowls. Some stroke patients have both memory and speech problems. Sometimes it's not memory problems but speech issues where someone cannot come up with the right word. Response from Stroke Rehab: It is not uncommon to have memory problems after a stroke. Is this normal, and is there a solution? Like should I write her name on his hand or something? But what got me a little more worried was last night when he asked for her name again, and he had absolutely no memory of me calling her Roxi and had no idea that was her name even though I repeated it to him countless times. This has been concerning for me, as I do not want my puppy to be confused, as I don’t want my dad to be as well. He questions this out loud, "why do I never say her name". He will realize he’s doing this and ask what my puppy's name really is but will go back to calling her Sisco moments later. Now they’re moved out, but for some reason, my dad can only call my puppy Sisco. My brother used to live with us too with his old little dog named Sisco. He’s helping me raise her and train her for the time being, her name is Roxi. I got a puppy about a month after my dad had his stroke.
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